Have you ever had the words of people around you influence a particular decision that you later regretted?
When I arrived in Phu Tho, on the 3rd day of my trip, I brought my companion to a bike repair shop at the Viet Tri market, it was the first time I went to a car repair shop on my trip. By the way, I did not tell you about my special companion, did I?
My friend, as I told you, I lent him 4 days before departure. His name is Kanri, heard from Taiwan. Before he came to me, he and the first Taiwanese owner were cycling around the southwestern region, then he sold it to my friend – Mr. Toan, Mr. Toan returned to Mr. Tam Ngo Dong (who lends me a bike) borrowed to ride from Saigon to Hanoi, so Mr.
Wondering why I call my car “him”? For long distance cyclists like us, the bike is a companion, alone an iron horse, even in lonely times I talk to my bike and it’s a fun way so I can connect what’s around with my imagination.
To return to car repair, why did I give the title to this chapter “Lucky I did not listen to my car repairman in Hanoi”?
The story is this when I borrowed the car from Mr. Tam, he was in a state of … damaged in many places. The movable axle has a problem that the wheelbase is reversed, which causes the wheel to constantly friction with the wheel, which causes the car to slow down, you imagine you are jumping, each turn pulls someone lightly in you. , the force of inertia is affected and the pedal force is lost again. Some spokes were broken and the tubers were not working properly.
This car can not drive through Vietnam, kid!
As soon as I received him, I stepped into Ly Nam De Street to find a car repair shop to repair it, I still remember that afternoon, I will never forget that moment. After looking at it for a while, the store owner said to me:
– This car can not drive through Vietnam, kid!
– But my friend rode here from Saigon …
– It’s my friend, now it’s broken too much, stop bringing it back and hang it on the wall as a souvenir
That statement worried me somewhat, luckily I was able to borrow a bike to ride on, but now people are telling me that it cannot be repaired. I decided to continue looking for another car repair shop as I only had 1,000,000 VND in my pocket left.
I went to the flea market, the bike repairman nearby also told me that this bike was very damaged, had to change a lot of clothes, blah … blah, that I could not walk. But can I still ride? At the time, I did not know anything about bicycles, but I thought that no matter if the bicycle could roll, it would still be able to walk. When I remembered the mechanic’s words in Ly Nam De, I became more determined: “I will definitely go!” and the fact that I did not follow his advice, I did what I believed in (but also quite a few of the degradation challenges I will tell you about in the next sections).
I think everyone has a different lens, for professional car repairers they will think they have to meet condition A, condition B for C to happen, but like to start a project So instead of waiting until that day , I have enough money (good car), enough skills, enough relationships … to start working, I choose to start with the most basic things and accept that there will be problems.out and gradually improve along the way.
Everyone has a different approach and I am grateful that I was brave enough to embark on a journey, knowing in advance that it would be difficult without sitting there imagining and fearing the challenge. I believe that youth is a period to experience, to learn, to develop oneself, to stumble, to stumble … it is okay to pay any price as long as one does not let oneself die (literally and figuratively ), do not let you die I lose self-confidence, enthusiasm, faith in life, in myself, and do not do anything that violates the law or is against morality.
If I go back to my 20s, I will collect more failures for myself
Wait until you are old (after 30), as Mr. Nguyen Canh Binh (CEO of Alpha Book) and teachers shared with us in the ABG Young Leaders Scholarship program, which: Before 30, collect your own masterpieces. If you fail, do not ” be afraid to fail, fail and learn your homework, because before 30 you have the flexibility and strength to get up and do it again, after 30 your elasticity is less, it will be hard to start again.
Before I heard these words from the teachers at ABG when I was 28 years old, I started my first company (I had started business projects before) without any formal knowledge, I failed, burned all the borrowed money over 300 million plus previous failures in life , relationship … I lost faith in myself, I was negative, I was scared, it was a period. It was a very dark time, as if I had written this book since I was 23 years old, I would not have had the opportunity to tell it to young people.
But luckily for me, at the end of the 3 month Young Leaders Scholarship at ABG, I understood the problem and felt like I was very lucky and rich, I regained my confidence and was myself again. WOW! It turned out that I am very rich without knowing it, I am rich in failures, experiences and lessons in life, so at the age of 30 I am confident, and begin to seriously build a career.
You too! Do not let temporary setbacks cause us to lose confidence. The great philosophers have all said, “Every failure carries a straight germ of success with it,” and failure is a signal to warn that you are going the wrong way or doing it the wrong way, it is true. They are only temporary failures, as long as we are alive, have health, have knowledge, enthusiasm and faith, we can start over and overcome. The most worrying thing is not what we will face in the future, but the fact that we are afraid of facing challenges and difficulties – the very moment we are afraid, Negative energy takes over the mind, and gradually takes over the person. I read about it in the book “Conquering the Devil In You”, which is an interesting follow-up to Napoleon Hill.
I think I’m extremely lucky that my youth jumped on a bike and ran into hardships (as everyone thinks), thanks to the fact that I have a maturity, thanks to which I forged myself to adapt, thanks be my uncle to correct me. car reflects that: “Not everything people say is right, do not be too worried about what people say”, consider instead how it is for yourself? Does what I do hurt anyone? What is the purpose of doing that? Am I able (or do I think) to do that? Are you ready to make a change? Each person is a separate individual, a separate little world, no one is alike, sometimes parents do not fully understand their children, even parents who are born and raised themselves, sometimes give even more subjectivity let alone outsiders.
So if I could go back 10-15 years ago, I would practice the habit: Independent thinking, owning my life. I will not let what “people say” affect me. I want to actively see and overcome fear (because fear will make us negative: lose all energy, self-confidence, creativity …). I will face failure gallantly, and even actively gather my own failures at a young age, with each failure I find out what needs to be corrected, what needs to change, and that will be the seed for future success. I think the people who have never failed are the ones who have never dared to do anything outside their comfort zone, which is not the way I choose to live.
Fortunately, I did not listen to the owner of a bicycle repair shop on Ly Nam De Street …
You can read other articles in my book Cycling 11 Southeast Asian Countries: Route 63 Provinces of Vietnam here: Contents Table of Contents